As a teacher, I give girls what I hope is a lot of attention. I don’t know if I give girls their fair share, but I aspire to, especially after noticing that boys are willing to use their greater share of teachers’ attention to get girls who they feel aren’t being quiet and docile enough punished. I have therefore acquired a reputation for “caring more about the girls.” This has had two marked results: Some straight boys have gotten more hostile toward me, and most girls have gotten more confident around me. This makes me think I’m doing something right.
Longer thoughts on how this phenomenon relates to sexual harassment in classrooms, if you’re interested: The girls figured out I won’t report them if they hit boys who are sexually harassing them, I’ll only report the boys. This led to an increase in how often girls got the last word and boys got smacked in my classes, and, also, to a DECREASE IN HOW OFTEN GIRLS GOT SEXUALLY HARASSED. The sexual harassers seem to have been depending on the sort of “equal blame” and “retaliation is never warranted” and “don’t hurt others’ feelings” perspectives so many schools try to instill in kids; the sexual harassers were usually the ones bringing me into the situation by saying, “Miss, she hit me! You should write her up!” Once they figured out I was only ever going to respond, “If you don’t treat girls like that, they won’t hit you,” the girls got more confident and the sexual harassers largely shut the fuck up.
In schools, fighting against sexual harassment is often punished exactly the same as, or more severely than, sexual harassment — a lot of discipline codes make no distinction between violence and violence in self-defence, and violence is ALWAYS the highest level of disciplinary infraction, whereas verbal sexual harassment rarely is. Sexual harassers, at least in the schools I’ve been in, rely heavily on GETTING GIRLS IN TROUBLE WITH HIGHER AUTHORITIES as a strategy of harassment — creating an external punishment that penalises girls for and therefore discourages girls from fighting back. Sexual harassers are willing to use their greater share of floorspace to ask to get girls who won’t date them punished. By and large, teachers do punish those girls when they swear or hit. Schools condition girls to ignore sexual harassment by punishing them when they speak up or fight back instead.
Once the sexual harassers in my classes understood that girls wouldn’t be punished for rejecting them, they backed off around me. And there started to be a flip in what conversations I get called into — girls are telling me when boys are being nasty (too loud and dominant), instead of boys telling me when girls are being uncooperative (louder and more dominant than boys think they should be).
reblogging again for the wonderful commentary.
Natalia Tena, who plays Osha, on her nude scene in Game of Thrones and the gender disparity in nude scenes on the series and in other shows.
In the interview, Tena says she asked the producers if she could wear a merkin or grow out her own hair. (She had to ask for permission to grow out her own pubic hair and was actually told no?)
I write slash because I don’t like any of the females in the fandom I write for.
Does this read like “women get in the way of my almighty ship” to anyone but me?
Nah, it reads as worse. I can’t even grasp the amount of misogyny in this.
Yeah, I figured it was probably at least that bad. I just….whaaaa.
It’s also fucked-up on the queer side too, I’d say. It’s like, “I want to write for this fandom, but all the women suck, so I guess I gotta settle for the man-love.”
Casual sexism, sizeism, and lookism is being called a fat cow while dressed in loose-fitting unisex-style clothes and flat shoes one morning on the way to work, then getting catcalled with sexual comments about the size of your ass and verbally abused for not sharing your phone number the next while wearing a more traditionally feminine and form-fitting outfit with three-inch heels- by the same man.
With the exception of Ellen and Jo Harvelle, the women on Supernatural seem to come in only two varieties. There’s the innocent, nervous, waifly ones who are in over their heads; and the saucy, slutty, seductive, usually evil ones.
Which is fairly typical across media and genres, of course, but it’s like the Supernatural ones all do it the same way. Seeing the same brand of stylized lascivious malevolence over and over again is exhausting. It’s obvious it’s supposed to be sinisterly sexy and it’s just boring. Maybe I’m just bad at popular attraction.